Have you figured out the second head fake

Have you figured out the second head fake 

The second head fake.....what's that? Well that's life, the second head fake is all about life. Life for each and everyone of us means something different so it's really difficult to write about what is is or how I have figured it out, because I have not figured it out at all in fact I'm just about beginning to understand what this crazy roller coaster of a Reid's called life is about.

I am sure there are ,any of you who like me had a definite plan for your life, you would do well at school, ave a few great friends, study hard at Tech and get a good job which you enjoyed and paid well, you would meet the perfect guy who would love everything you love and want to spend all his fee time doing the things you love. (what a laugh). 

Life is a life long lesson and some of us are really good students, we learn the lesson the first time we make mistakes and others just need to knock their heads and make a few really bad decisions and suffer the consequences before we take the lesson out of it. 

For me life has taught me to be grateful, humble and compassionate. Life has taught me that you are not in control of everything and that I have so many wonderful blessings and goodness in my life. 

I still have a lot to learn but hopefully I can see now with my heart and my eyes and not judge too soon or too harshly, I will try to put myself into the situation of others and listen to advice given and most importantly really listen to people of all ages because we have so much to learn from one another.

Here's to a happy life's journey to all

Tanya B

 

Two heads - are they really better than one?

I am ...

So many things....

I am a wife, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a cousin, a niece, a collage,a home maker, a mother (to my sweet girl in heaven), I am a employee, a teacher, a healer and a nurturer to name a few.

All of us have so many roles to fulfill in life we have to do our best at work everyday, well those of us who are still trying to prove ourselves that issue have to create a great home for our husbands and families and we have to support friends and take time to do things we also love. Men also have many roles some of which we as woman do not realize.

Isn't the most important responsibility to yourself? To be true to what you want in life and out of life? We can only make others happy and be there for others if we are happy. I am a life long learner, by studying and always striving to improve myself. 

I am a teacher by caring for other children and taking up this role in Sunday school. I am a wife by the vows I took and by my relationship with my husband, I am a daughter to my wonderful parents who have given me so much and made me who I am today, I am a sister to my wise and loving brother, I am a friend to many especially 6 very important ladies in my life, I am a cousin to my sisterhood of cousins, I am a niece to many who are the next best thing to. My own mom, I am a college to wonderful people who I have learned so. Much from, I am a home maker in the making and I am a m other to a sweet baby girl who now look down upon me from heaven. I strive to heal broken spirits of anyone who needs it and I am a nurturer by nature.

Do some introspection today and find out who you really are and what you may mean to so many

Tanya B

 

I am - Perfectly Me

 

Andy Warhol said "in the future everybody will be world famous for fifteen minutes" you can't choose the fifteen minutes, but why would you be world famous?

All of us want our fifteen minutes of fame at some time in our lives. 

I don't think I would be famous for anything significant but if the world revolved around me and my life, My fifteen minutes would be about.....

My crazy personality that drives every aspect of my life. I am a colorful and creative personality type, at times this gets me into trouble, I think with my emotions and always try and save the world and put myself last.

These past few weeks have taught me to tone down, to think before I talk and consider situations from others view points. I have done a lot of meditation and  learned m any a lesson. 

There are positives and negatives to anything in life and to all our personalities so let's take the goodness out of who we are and see the positive in everything. 

Tanya B

 

 

A skill set called Leadership

What makes a leader?

What is leadership? Being a great leader is definitely a set of  very definite skills, these skills take a long time to develop  it encompasses emotional maturity, the ability to be humble but not a walk over and the experience to be able to sense what way to go with out too much detail, these are a few traits of a good leader. 

Another very important leadership skill is empathy and being fair, always maintaining dignity and treating everyone equally. I have been in the fortunate position to have had 2 very great managers 2 men whom I have learned a lot from and who have my respect forever. I believe a manager should guide you without making you feel belittled, should protect you without covering up for you and should mould you and develop you for bigger and better than where you are by giving you the freedom to make decisions and run with projects while they assist and guide you.

Real leadership is development and empowerment, a good leader will always want to build staff and develop their skills, while a slave driver type manager will always milk you for what you can do and never really encourage you to better prospects.

We can be leaders in many things... At home in our communities, at work and even as a mentor to a young adult. Being a good leader is not something you are born to be it needs work especially on yourself as a person. 

We all have people we look up to and can learn from in our lives, here's to all the wonderful and inspiring leaders in my life, my parents firstly and everyone else who contributed and will still contribute to my development and growth

Love

Tanya B

 

"Rock journalism is interviewing people who can't write, interviewing people who can't talk for people who can't read"-( Frank Zappa)

What is your definition of rock journalism

Laugh out loud- to my understanding I would say this journalism is reserved for papers such as "die son" and the likes...

Rock journalism is a writing style which depicts the slang of the area in which that paper or article is being published, an easy to read and understand and written in a way that is gripping and entertaining to a selected group of people or audience.

Freedom of speech plays a great role in this I guess. South AFrica is a very diverse country and freedom of speech has different goal posts for different people, what I feel is enough could just be getting someone else started.

Due to this diversity journalism has to accommodate for all and this is not a bad thing,  especially for the media houses.

As previously stated this is my understanding of rock journalism, after doing some research I found that it is actually rock (as in the music) journalism. This Frank Zappa quote has become rather famous within the music journalism circle, it caused some offense and a stir but ultimately was not intended that way.

Just shows, one should always research before writing!

Happiness to all

 

Tanya B

My top 200 achievements

What does achievement mean to you

1. My very best achievement in my life thus far has to be that I am a Mother, I was blest to carry a precious life and even though my baby girl is now in heaven, I consider myself privileged to have carried her and nurtured her for 26 weeks,

2. Being a wife – this requires constant maturity and growth

3. Working towards the end of my BTech

4. Planning a wedding

5. Completing my ND

6. Finishing School

7. Never doing drugs

8. Maintaining good relationships

9. Completing very difficult and complex assignments

10. Working on my Dissertation

11. Working on building my character

12. Being hard working

13. Maintain a solid belief system

14. Staying true to myself

15. Having the courage to follow my dreams

16. Loving completely

17. Facing challenges and overcoming them

18. Facing everyday challenges

19. Being kind everyday

20. Being unselfish when I need to be

21. My abaility to listen

22. To act as a mediator and explain issues to people of different understanding

Shew - this is really difficult , I dont think I have 200 achievemenets yet. I doubt anyone has 200 achievements they can put down on paper. If we really think about it there are many achievements we have on a daily basis, maybe achievements are the wrong words to use these are more like everyday miricles and blessings, god fortune if you like.

The fact that we can awake in the morning with health and strenght - there we go 3 blessings in one line! The fact that we have loved ones and friends, a job, roof over our heads and a warm bed are miricles.

In fact I think if we really sit back and become grateful for life and beauty we could easily fill the page.

Many blessings and good fortune to all reading this post, I pray it provokes a few positive thoughts.

What motivates me?

In life there are many things that motivates one, our motivations will differ depending on the type of personality and character we have, Here are a few things that motivate me:

I am motivated by summer days and happiness, by families that are close and supportive of one another, by the unconditional love of parents and the closeness of siblings, I am motivated by love and respect, by wisdom and understanding, by brightly coloured fruit and the birth of a baby.

Motivation is not something tangible it is something experienced, felt and understood, it is also different for everyone.

The definition of motivation is: The psychological feature that arouses an organism to action towards a desired goal, the reason for that action."

Substitute "organism" with "a human being" and you begin to get it. An implication of the definition is that we need to have a reason behind our actions to achieve our goals. Achieving what you want in life means getting motivated. Inspiration along with perspiration are key ingredients in making you a success.

All in all motivation is whatever gives you a spring in your step towards achieveing your goals be it for your day or for your life.

My ultimate motivation is my family, without them I have no inspiration, support, cheerleaders or believers.

My precious family